沉默的力量(The Power of Silence)

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whatdidyounotsayyesterday?weretherethingsyouwishyouhadsaidbutheldback?didyoucorralcertainwords,certainsentences,andholdthemforanotheropportunity?weresomethoughtspushedbelowthesurface,allowedtobechangedwithtime,perhapstobefottenforever?howmany“iloveyou’s”wentunsaidthatwouldhavehealedanachingheart?aswithsleep,youcannotstorethemandbuildareservetotapintoatalaterdate.theirpower,theirbalmingeffect,quicklydissipateswithdisuse.theyworkonlyinthemomentthattheywereintended.leftidle,theirpotentialisgone,theobjectoftheirdeliveryuntouchedbykindness,bytenderness.

“iloveyou.”itissosimpletosay.threewords.therearemanyotheropportunitiestosaythem,butnonemoreimportantandpossessingmorepotentialthannow.wordscanhavetheoppositeeffectifleftunsaid,almostasiftheywerespokenasopposites.silencecanequaltheopposite.“iloveyou”unsaidcanbee“idon’tloveyou”outloud.yourmosttenderandendearingthoughts,ifnotallowedtoflyfreefromtheprisonofyourmind,maysilentlytellsomeohatyoudon’tcare.howmanytimeshasyoursilencetoldyourpartnerorchildthatyoudidn’tlovethem?howoftenhasanunsaidwordcreatedtheoppositeeffect?thinkofallthelivesthatwouldhavebeenchangedhadarmiesofsentencesbeenallowedtoroamfree.thosewhogothroughlifecloakedinspokenendearments,wrappedandfortedinthevoicedloveofothers,aretrulyblessed.thepowerofthespokenwordismighty.thepowerofsilencecanbemightierstill.countlessmillionsofwordshavebeenwrittenandspokensincethebeginningofhumanhistory.atotalofallthewordsinallthelibrariesoftheworld,pastandpresent,andeverywordofeveryconversation,idlechatter,lecture,broadcast,andspeechinhistorywouldbedwarfedbythevastlegionsofwordsleftunsaid,thoserenderedimpotentbysilence.notthatitisagoodthingtoinstantlyspeakeverythoughtthatestomind:chaoswouldensue.wehavetobeselectiveofourwordsanddeliverthemintothepatternofconversationwhereappropriate;however,itisourmentaleditingthatisolatescertainwordsandthoughtsasunspeakable,andsentencesthemtodie(punintended).

wordscanchangetheworld.theycanincite,torture,kill,fort,heal,encourage,humiliate,anger,inspire,sadden,givejoy,makeonelaugh,andtheycanforeverchangeone’slife.therearemanykindsofwords:“inotherwords,”four-letter-words,wordsthatareread,wordstomakeyoublue;thereisthespokenword,thewrittenword,thefottenword;weputwordsinsomeone’smouth,andwedon’thavethewordstoexpress....words,words,everywhere,andnotathoughttospeak.andtheunsaidwords